Question of The Day: Can men and women ‘just be friends’?
I personally CANNOT be friends with a woman. Every time it has happened in my past, there was some element of attraction/lust/love between us (from me, from her or mutual). I have to keep a safe distance. I can be social, but not too close.
I also think that it can be unhealthy, especially in marriages and long-term relationships to have REALLY close friends of the opposite sex. It always made me uncomfortable, and I think that at some point in your relationship, you have to distance yourself from ‘brothers’ ‘best friends’ and ‘like-a-cousins’.
You know what they say: “A Shoulder to Cry On, Becomes a D— to Ride On”. When problems happen in a relationship, people tend to confide in those individuals closest to them. And we all know that the line between comfort and intimate gets blurred when a person is emotionally vulnerable (male or female). I prefer to keep my problems in-house, sharing them only with my mate, or my family. Some people are listening to your issues-not to help-but to identify gaps in which they might insert themselves. You never know nowadays.
I realize that nowadays, social and romantic relationships are much more modern and less traditional, and people DO genuinely have platonic friendships with people whom they have no attraction to. But knowing myself, it’s not for me. And hopefully, it’s not for my long-term life partner either.