Relationship Gumbo Pt. 2

Random Thoughts by Mr. Grace.

Women often claim that men do not understand them. I’ve always thought that to be ironic, because men are perhaps more misunderstood than women. It is a common belief that men are simple beings that only require food and sex in order to be happy. If you believe that, then I have a beachfront property in Idaho that I’d like to sell you. The truth is, men have thoughts (gasp!), feelings (eek!), and emotions (lies!) that we deal with just like anyone else. The only difference is, it takes longer for us to reveal them.

When you are The One, you are a man’s walking, talking self-esteem. You hold his self-worth in your purse, and you have the power to make that man feel like the President or a peasant. He will tell you things that he won’t tell his closest homeboys, and show you a level of vulnerability that you may never see again. It is a very important privilege, having the ability to change how a human being sees himself. And you must be careful with it because a broken man is ten times more destructive than a wayward woman.

You think you choose us, but we ultimately choose YOU. During the chase, we are vying for your attention, placing our bids, campaigning for your vote like a Senator. But once you decide to be down with us, we sit back and say, “Okay, she chose me. Good job self! Now given everything I have learned about this woman, is this someone that can be good for me?” It sucks to explain it that way, but that’s how it happens. Don’t be so conceited when a guy is after you for your beauty. He is really trying to see if you have matching insides. If you don’t, his interest will be strictly physical.

From my long and storied dating history, I’ve had days of glory and moments of utter failure. But from all of those experiences, I can tell you firsthand that the biggest problem most single women have today is that they only think of themselves. It’s the Cinderella Syndrome, in which you are taught that your needs, concerns and desires are the only things that matter. Many women talk incessantly about themselves, how they feel, what they think, what they had for breakfast. We become a diary, just absorbing all your thoughts. We start to wonder if you want US, or if you just want a man-cessory to stand there and be handsome.

So the next time you’re on a date, and you’ve just finished your third story, kindly look up and ask, “What do you think?”

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4 Comments Add yours

  1. mp11312 says:

    Beautifully put man!

  2. mp11312 says:

    Reblogged this on Black Men UNCENSORED and commented:
    I like the way this is written…..

  3. Jontae Grace says:

    Thanks for the support Bro! I really appreciate Brothas checking out what I’m doing.

  4. Wow that was deep man.

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