Love Versus ‘The List’

-By Jontae Grace At some point in your romantic journey, you will find yourself torn between what attracts you, and what is good for you.  And that is a microcosm of the way life generally works: many of the things you really like, are no good for you. And many things that are good for…

Emotions: Unavailable.

She asked me to pull it out and show her, because science. I hesitated at first, because you never know whether they’ll think it big or small, depending on their expectations. But for some reason, women always want to see my biggest insecurity. So I showed her, against my better judgment. I usually don’t do…

Thirty and Unmarried

By Jontae Grace Mothers have a way of cutting through to the heart of a matter. If I say, “Mom, I got a job interview,” she gone say, “How much it pay?” If I say, “Mom, I’m thinking about going back to school for my Master’s,” She’ll say, “Be mindful of the 50-thousand dollars you…

Live Your Truth

-By Jontae Grace As my ratchetness has grown and matured, my shame about it has all but disappeared. My personal dalliances might surprise some, but anyone who really knows me will tell you that I’m really with the shit, in several ways. Or was. Or might still be, depending on what that mouf do. Point…

Broken Shards: Protecting and Developing Your Energy

By Jontae Grace There comes a time when, after enduring stress and struggle for so long, I feel spiritually and emotionally numb, and I looking at life like, “Whatever, motherfucker.” These moments of FuckItAll can be both a gift and a curse. On the one hand, I get a little bit more reckless. I don’t…